Monday, June 30, 2008

Hot Summer Day

Today was GROCERY SHOPPING day. The task deserves all caps because it is a production, albeit not on Broadway. It’s 35 minutes to Catskill, where I went to Wal-Mart. I’m not fond of Wal-Mart, but I am fond of its prices. One can save serious money on certain items. After that it was a 4-block drive to Price Chopper where I picked up everything else, from meat and veggies to certain dairy products. The 2-1/2 hours shopping was followed by the 35-minute ride home and then schlepping the bags into the house. Thankfully Ron was here and did most of the work. Of course, one can’t leave 25 bags around the kitchen floor so the adventure of putting away a month’s worth of groceries soon began. I have to be careful not to put something somewhere just cause it fits but not remember where I put it.

Our new Dish receiver stopped working today. It provides the picture to the TVs in the TV room and the kitchen. I’m OK not having a TV but Ron is going through withdrawal. He needs to have it on, even if he’s not watching it. Luckily the TV in the bedroom is working on the old dish receiver so he’s upstairs. I can’t be bothered.

Today’s is Maureen’s 66th birthday. How is it my sister got to be that old? LOL

Gas prices – Paid $4.239 at Greenville Cumberland today. Prices haven’t gone up much in 2 weeks. Shhhhhhhhhhhh

Today’s weather – Hot, humid, sunny. It’s SUMMER!!

Life lessons – I’m still torn about shopping at Wal-Mart. I do not like the store. I do like its way of treating employees. I do not like super big, super rich companies that pretty much do what they want. But here I am, shopping at a place I swore I’d never step into. It won’t surprise me if my principles eventually defeat my desire to save money and I again return to not shopping there.

Sunday, June 29, 2008

It's Sunday

Today started off nicely. Ron & I stayed in bed until close to 8, chatting and just enjoying the relaxing time. Then we had a minor tiff after breakfast and it’s gone downhill. Kind of works for me ‘cause sometimes I just want to be alone, on the computer, and not feel bad because I’m not with him.

I spent a lot of time on the computer today, looking at the WW site and playing Pogo games.

Tonight we went to Elsie’s for dinner. I love being there on a summer night. We – and there must’ve been 25 of us – eat outside. David BBQs. We help ourselves and sit on the porch and look out over the valley.

Tomorrow is grocery shopping day so I spent time yesterday and today figuring out menus for July and making a list.

Today’s weather – It was hot and humid and threatened all day to rain, but we had only a few sprinkles.

No life changes – Sundays at Elsie’s for supper is ingrained into me more than anything about being in Greenville, other than being Ron’s wife. Going to Elsie’s is what we do, and it’s good.

Saturday, June 28, 2008

Hot Summer Day

I need to get my weight fluctuations under control so I decided to join Weight Watchers On-line. I’m not a group joiner, and would never go to weekly meetings. But I am a computer literate person so doing this on line works for me. The point system is fairly simple to follow, and though I hate to cook, I will do more of it using the recipes on the WW site. I made a chicken dish last night that Ron thought was good. He still doesn’t know it was a WW recipe. My intention is to lose 20 pounds by mid to late fall.

Today was another clean-the-house day. I half-heartedly tackled upstairs. Our bedroom is looking fine, but my computer room/spare bedroom is still in need of work. Maybe tomorrow.

Today’s weather
– It was really really hot and it is still really really hot. Summer is here.

Life changes – Ya know, I’ve been here before with the weight-loss thing. Some things never really change, except for attitude, and my attitude now is I’ll lose what I can to feel comfortable, but I don’t have a goal in mind established by somebody else.

Friday, June 27, 2008

My reason for blogging was to keep track of my life. That is, what I do on a daily basis for it seems that one day blends into another with me not remembering what the hell I did!

I’ve been so busy lately that I haven’t had time to blog. Also, I haven’t been in the mood to write. From now on, though, I’m going to do my best to write something every day, not worrying or bothering with complete sentences or even ideas if I have time only to write down the highlights of the day.

Today is Friday, June 27. Looking back at this week: Monday was Ron’s colonoscopy day. He had to go to St. Peter’s because of health issues. All is well. Doc cut out two very small polyps and expects good results from the pathology.

Tuesday was an Ember day. I swear that child was on speed! LOL Judy and I took her to The Crossings in Colonie.

Wednesday I had lunch with Joan and Gloria. We went to the Brassiere (sp?). The food was very good, and we had a good time sharing stories and laughing.

Thursday was another Em day. She was calmer, so I took her to Colonie Center to play in the play area, and we had lunch at Friendly's. She sure is a charmer. Everybody around us commented how friendly and verbal she is. Verbal? Em is a motor mouth sometimes.. LOL In all seriousness, Em's vocabularly and sentence structure are 8 to 12 months beyond her age of 2 years, 3 months, and people are drawn to a child of that age who talks as if she's 3 years old.

And now it’s Friday. A day at home. I told Ron I am not leaving this house except for an emergency. I have been on the go for probably three weeks, without a chance to be home, be laid back, play computer games, read a book, watch TV, etc.

I’ve done laundry, vacuumed, dusted, washed floors and generally picked up. Now I’m here blogging and soon will go to Pogo.com and play what has become my favorite game, Addiction Solitaire. The name is very suitable.

Exercise - Haven’t done much lately.

Gas prices - Sunoco in town hit $4.259 this week.

Today’s weather – It’s hot, muggy and overcast. T-storms are predicted. This is pretty much how it’s been all week.

Life lessons – I continually learn from the worst times of my life that when all is said and done, life goes on and how I react to events determines my emotional health.

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Sadness

Crazy days abound around here. Well, maybe not crazy but no two days in a row are the same. Sometimes I long for tedium and monotony, but then I suppose like napping (one can always nap when dead or so old who knows the difference), I can always be bored when I’m too old to do much of anything.

Ron has had doctor appointments in the past week. The one with the sleep doctor revealed he has very severe sleep apnea, upwards of 93 episodes an hour! He will return for another ‘sleepover’ to transition to a CPAP. He’s not keen on the idea of the machine, but he is willing to try it.

Changes are inevitable, aren’t they. I always thought, though, that as I grew older, changes would be fewer and farther apart. I could not have been farther wrong in my thinking. From my long-thought-out decision of 10 years ago to separate and divorce; meeting Leland; meeting Mark; Tony going into the Air Force; Tony marrying Michele; Tony leaving the Air Force; me retiring; Tony & Michele having Ember; me meeting Ron; me marrying Ron a year later; there have been more changes than I could have imagined. More changes in my life in the past 10 years than the previous 20.

The most recent change has been a surprise and shock and made me very sad. Tony told me that he and Michele have decided to legally separate with the intention of filing for a divorce in a year. In New York State, a couple can be divorced without cause after being legally separated for one year. None of us had any idea they were unhappy or that their marriage was in trouble.

I never thought they were a blissful couple, but they’re young, they have a toddler, they both work – that’s a lifestyle that doesn’t lend itself to constant, obvious happiness. I never thought, though, they were so far apart that they would separate.

It breaks my heart for Ember. Divorce is tough on kids no matter the age. At 2 years of age, she won't remember her parents living together. All she'll know is there are some days at daddy's; some days at mommy's; and in between the two grandmas take care of her.

I've done a lot of crying. I'm also worried. At our age, we know that life isn't always better just because one leaves a marriage. Perhaps the separation will bring them closer, but to be honest, that’s a far-fetched idea.

Hopefully - may the powers-that-be be kind – they will remain friends as they say they are now and plan on being. It’s very possible. Patrick and I divorced so amicably and easily, and remained friends, that it’s still talked about as extraordinarily unusual.

As far as I know, I am still needed and wanted as a two-day-a-week care giver for Ember. My heartbreak would be 100 fold if that part of my life changed too.

Exercise – Haven’t done any in over a week.

Today’s weather – It’s been chilly the past few days, and today is no exception. The average daytime temps have been 8 to 10 degrees below normal, and it’s been partly cloudy also. We’ve had bad thunderstorms go through, but I don’t think they’re expected today.

Gas prices – Here in Greenville they are $4.239. Up in the Guilderland area, they are $4.179 and $4.199.

Life changes – How can changes continue to come in a number and speed which makes me catch my breath? Why is it that I can’t have more than a month or two of being comfortable, with few worries, before something blindsides me? Who knows, but it is what it is, and we’ll deal with it.

Monday, June 16, 2008

#1: Pictures of downtown Fort Worth, Texas




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#2: PIctures of Trip to Fort Worth, Texas


Quiet Water Pool


Edge of overflowing water that goes down to the blue pond below.

Trees next to Quiet Water Pool.

Picture of Ron standing looking down at me by the quiet water pool.
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#3: Pictures of Trip to Fort Worth, Texas


Outside Fort Worth Convention Center.


Inside Forth Worth Convention Center

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Crazy Two Weeks

It’s been a crazy two weeks. After taking care of Ember two days in a row down here two weeks ago, I was pretty tired, but on Wednesday, the 4th of June, I finished ironing and packed my suitcases for our trip to Texas. We went to bed early and were up and ready to leave for the airport at 6:30 Thursday morning.

I made two predictions about this trip: (1) that due to the short layover in Philly on our way down, our luggage would not make it to the plane; and (2) that due to the predictable bad weather in the mid-west this time of year, we would be delayed in Chicago on our way back. I was right on both predictions. I did not predict we’d get lost going to the motel after renting the car. We had directions, and we’re very good at following directions, but due to the state of Texas’s inadequate signage on all roads, whether interstate or surface side roads, we spent two hours driving around instead of the 30 minutes or less it should have taken us. Of course, it didn’t help that the GPS that came with the car didn’t work properly -- probably because we took so many turns it too got confused.

The luggage was delivered to our motel at 11:20 PM Thursday night, the night of our arrival, but since there was no guaranty when we would get it, we had made a trip to Wal-Mart (one of my favorite stores.. NOT!) to buy a few things I had packed in the luggage. All-in-all, I purchased over $50 worth of stuff. Most of it wasn't used because we did get the luggage so the next day we returned the stuff.

Overall, the time spent in Texas was not fun. Ron’s family pretty much tolerates me, ignores me, or wishes I went away – depending on the person. I go to family functions because I love Ron. It is what it is, and I made sure that wherever we went, I had a book with me.

Being I grew up in a small family in number – and even now I have fewer blood relatives than Ron has grandchildren – it can be nerve-racking to be around his family with so many people. Toss in the relatives of his son-in-law, whom we were visiting, and there were at least 50 people, more than half of whom I had never met before.

The time there wasn’t a total washout because there were people I hadn't met before and it was enjoyable getting to know them, and as always, Ron’s grandchildren are the best of it all, especially the younger ones.

It was very hot while we were there and incredibly windy, an unusual phenomena for Texas, so the locals told us. Of course, everything is air conditioned, and except for the Fort Worth Convention Center where the graduation ceremonies were held, which was very cold, the AC in all other houses and buildings was set at a temp that was comfortable.

I was glad to see Sunday morning come. We returned the rental car and got to the airport in plenty of time, only to have the plane delayed because of bad weather in Chicago. After a delay of almost two hours, we left Dallas/Fort Worth, arriving in Chicago late. Late was OK because our scheduled departure flight was delayed due to weather. It was delayed until it was cancelled, thus leaving us with no way out of Chicago that night…. nor the next! After waiting in line for over two hours at United’s customer service, our first confirmed flight was at 6:25 AM Tuesday morning, over 30 hours away.

I think we handled it well. Ron, of course, can sleep almost anywhere so he got some Zzzzzzs in Sunday night. I can’t sleep easily anywhere and was awake all of Sunday night. Monday we wandered from one boarding area to another, as we followed around the flights on which we were standby. I think we went into another zone of consciousness because of being tired and frustrated at the whole event. Neither of us lost our cool or got angry. We did what we had to do and hoped for the best.

The whole thing was exhausting. Airports are noisy. There are thousands of people. Airline representatives are overworked and I’m sure underpaid, though to their credit, all of them were polite and helpful.

We finally got out of O’Hare as standbys about 10:30 PM central time on Monday night. The pilot put the pedal to the metal, so to speak, and did the usually two-hour trip in 90 minutes. We landed about 1 AM in Albany, got our luggage, which had been sitting in Albany for two days, and were home in bed in Greenville by 2:30 Tuesday morning.

It took me four nights to relieve the exhaustion and weariness of it all.

Last week was extremely busy, which contributed to the length of time it took me to get back to normal. Wednesday I had two doctor appointments. Thursday, Ron had three doc appointments and from Albany we went right to his grandson’s baseball game, so we were away from home from 7 AM until 8:30 PM. Friday I had Ember.

Finally on Saturday, I relaxed. After cleaning and doing a few other chores in the morning, I did nothing but relax in the afternoon. Saturday evening we went to another of Caleb’s baseball games only to have it rained out. Instead, Ron took me out to dinner.

Sunday was pretty much a total day of relaxation. The day ended with dinner at Elsie’s.

Gas prices – Sunoco and Cumberland in town: $4.239.

Weather – It’s been very hot in our area with most afternoons ending in weather more typically July than June, that is thunderstorms with lots of rain.

Life changes – Flying sure isn’t what it used to be. It used to be fun. Even though security measures can be a pain in the neck, they don’t make flying not fun. What makes it not fun is the airlines and their way of doing business, leaving people stranded in customer lines of hundreds of people and having only three representatives behind the counter. Delays are not fun. Being stuck in an airport for 30 hours is not fun. My desire to fly has fallen to zero and this is a big life change for me.

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Em's Visit, Early June


Blowing bubbles....floating in the backyard.



Em & Grampa Ron blowing bubbles.




Em on side steps blowing bubbles.


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Em's Visit, Early June


Playground, Norton Hill.



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Em's Visit, Early June


Town pond, Greenville.


Feeding the ducks and geese, town pond.


Swinging in the backyard in the "big girl" swing.


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Em's Visit, Early June

Playing ball with Grampa Ron.


Playing ball with Grampa Ron.

Trying to pluck a flower from the garden.

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Em's Visit, Early June


Wearing Grampa Ron's boots!

First thing in the morning - relaxing before breakfast.
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Long Time, Again

Wow, it’s been quite a few days since I’ve written. Some days there is no extra time; not even the 15 or 20 minutes it take to write.

I had Ember down here Monday into Tuesday. She had a real good time. So did Ron and I. Em loves the new swing Grampa Ron hung in the tree. It’s a ‘big girl’ swing and once on it, Em’s ready to swing for 30 or more minutes at a time. Works for me.

While Em was here we fed the ducks and geese at the town pond and also went to the playground in Norton Hill. There were two other children there, both around 2 years of age, and as usual Em was happy with “da kids” for playing.

Our other activities included blowing bubbles, kicking the ball around and playing in the sandbox. Sometimes I just sat in the chair and watched her play. It’s good for her to entertain herself without adult intervention.

Em saw her first deer yesterday when one wandered through the backyard. She wasn’t impressed. LOL To her it was an animal who wouldn’t stand still long enough for her to approach. I still love it when deer come through the yard. When she’s older she’ll realize that not everybody has deer in their backyard, especially people like her who live in a city.

Obviously the pics in the above post were taken while she was here. It’s difficult to get pictures of her straight on because she’s always so busy doing things. And she won’t smile on command.

Today I’m packing for our trip to Texas. Flying is a real pain in the neck. This can go on the carry on, but not that. Or that can go on but not this. It I weren’t afraid of luggage being lost or delayed, I wouldn’t even bother with a carry on.

Tonight I’m meeting the girls from Banking for our monthly supper out. It’s going to be quick and cheap. We’re meeting at The Fountain for pizza and a beer.

Tomorrow we leave home at 6:30 AM to get to the park & fly place and then shuttle to the airport. Our plane leaves at 9:30 and goes to Philly. From there, we fly to Dallas/Fort Worth.

Exercise – Running around after Em the past two days; plus a good long walk last evening after she left. Today I’ve been up and down stairs, including down to the cellar for laundry, at least 20 times. Tomorrow I’ll do a lot of walking in the airport because I get antsy just sitting and waiting.

Today’s weather – After two beautiful days with sun, temps in the high 70s and beautiful blue skies, today is yucky, as Em would say. It’s in the low 60s, overcast and sometimes rainy.

Life lessons – Little ones teach great lessons. Enjoy swinging. The sandbox sand feels “good to my hands, Gramma.” Ants don’t bite (so Em tries to convince herself). Kick the ball. Share hugs and kisses. I taught Em a lesson: Dragonflies are our friends because they don’t harm us and they are lovely to see. The macro lesson is Enjoy Life!